No one likes to be criticized, judged, or lectured. Everyone likes to be acknowledged. Criticism could be uncomfortable, discouraging, and often makes one defensive. Whether it’s at home, work, or in our social circles, these interactions rarely lead to positive outcomes.

The truth is most individuals want to feel heard and respected. When one acknowledge someone’s thoughts or feelings, one show that they value them. This builds trust and creates a more open and understanding relationship.

Criticism often puts individuals on the defensive. Instead of reflecting on what was said, they’re more likely to focus on how it was delivered. A harsh tone or dismissive attitude can overshadow even valid points.

Imagine telling someone, “You’re always late. It’s so irresponsible.” How might they respond? Probably with excuses or frustration. Now consider saying, “I’ve noticed you’ve been running late lately. Is everything okay?” This approach is more likely to lead to a constructive discussion.

Applying respect with criticism is essential if the goal is to have a positive conversation, as well as positive impact. However, it is also essential for individuals to understand that as humans, we are not perfect. Therefore, criticism should be looked upon as an opportunity for growth, if necessary.

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The power of respect

When individuals feel respected, they’re more open to feedback and new ideas. Acknowledging their perspective doesn’t mean one agree with them; it simply shows that one value their input. This makes it easier to share one’s thoughts in return.

Simple actions like listening without interrupting, maintaining a calm tone, and asking questions instead of making accusations can transform a tense moment into a productive one.

I have had conversations with individuals who feel the need to dominate the conversation. They keep talking, and never give me the space to air my opinion on the subject matter. When one feels they’re done talking, and the stage is now free to air an opinion, they still get interrupted. What am i saying? If you love to be acknowledged, and your opinions heard, you should as well offer the same courtesy to others.

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In conclusion, everyone wants to feel valued and respected. Everyone wants to be acknowledged. Everyone holds their opinions to high esteem, even if these opinions are false. So, one should extend same courtesy to others. By focusing on acknowledgment instead of aggressive criticism, one can strengthen relationships and foster better understanding.

©️Victor E. Ojei, 2025.