Life often feels like a choice between A or B. Take the safe route or take a risk. Stay or leave. Accept the situation or fight it. Most of us get stuck trying to pick the “right” option.
But maturity isn’t about choosing between two paths. It’s about realizing you’re not limited to just A or B: you can create option C.
Why Individuals Stick to A or B
Individuals are taught to follow rules and pick from what’s given. While this is necessary a bad thing; in some situations option A is just as terrible as B. In this case, what then does one do?
It feels safe. But playing it safe can keep you from growing. Sticking to only A or B might mean settling, compromising your values, or waiting for life to make the choice for you.
What Option C Looks Like
Creating option C means stepping back and asking:
- What do I really want?
- Does it align with my walk with God?
- Is there a solution no one else is seeing?
- Can I make something new instead of choosing between what already exists?
Option C could be starting your own business instead of taking a job you don’t love. It could mean leaving a relationship but building a better life instead of jumping into another. Or simply finding a new approach no one else considered.
Why Option C Matters
When you create your own path, you:
- Trust yourself: You realize you can find solutions, not just wait for them.
- Handle uncertainty: The unknown becomes opportunity, not fear.
- Take control: You stop letting life dictate your path.
Start Small
Option C doesn’t have to be huge. Start with small decisions: a problem at work, a personal project, or how you spend your free time. Ask yourself: is there another way I haven’t tried? You’ll be surprised how often there is.
Bottom Line
Maturity is not about picking A or B. It’s about seeing possibilities beyond what’s in front of you and having the courage to create your own path. Life isn’t limited to choices given to you: you get to make your own.
©️Victor E. Ojei, 2026.
VICTOR OJEI 
I can appreciate the sentiment, but it comes with a couple of real‑world complications. What if your options are limited? What if there are only two choices, neither of them ideal? Life doesn’t always hand out endless possibilities.
It also pushes back against a familiar parental myth: “You can be anything you want.” No, you can’t. None of us can. I wanted to play professional hockey, but that was never going to happen for a long list of reasons. Wishing nor planning or even options can override reality.
What is practical is doing the best you can with what you have, and working toward creating better alternatives for the future. For some people, that path is easier; for others, it’s much harder. Circumstances, resources, timing, and luck all play a role.
The hard truth is that life isn’t limitless—but effort, adaptability, and perspective still matter. You may not be able to be “anything,” but you can become something meaningful by working with the options you do have and building toward the ones you don’t yet have. Maybe it works maybe it does not but never give up and keep moving forward.
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While you are right. I should say that life is not always about option A or B: which is the actual point of this article. There are situations where by the options before you are up to no good; what happens next goes to show how resourceful one can be in face of impossibility.
This is at the core of creativity. Those who choose to ignore the choices they have been given, and push past the limitations before them. Take a look at the medical sector for example, better options are created on a daily basis, better than options from decades ago: simply because some certain individual chose to push past the limitations before them.
Furthermore, I should point out that there are limitations that can’t be crossed, as there are natural laws and order that cannot be broken. At the end of the day you still wouldn’t play professional hockey if you are not competent. But don’t you think belief, fuels the fire to make progress? After all, one advancing strongly depends on how much progress one made, and the discipline of a professional hockey player.
Nothing comes easy. Someone else is paying for it. Either family, and connections, or yourself, and discipline.
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To me, maturity means being able to proceed regardless of whether you end up with A -B or C.
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I get what you mean. Lovely. Thanks for sharing. 🔥
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